My New & Improved NaNoWriMo Prep Guide

My New & Improved NaNoWriMo Prep Guide | Writing Between Pauses

Last year, I shared my NaNoWriMo prep guide in this blog post about planning NaNoWriMo when you work. (It’s also available on my freebies page, along with pretty much every other printable and guide I’ve ever made.)

As I’ve been preparing for NaNoWriMo this year myself, way later than usual, of course, I found myself turning to my own guide and making small changes that have made a huge difference in my planning.

2020 NaNoWriMo guide to prep

Here’s what has changed:

  • The design: pages are now easier to print out and read, as well as write all your notes

  • A New Goals Page

  • Brainstorming pages for ideas, names, motivations, and more

  • Improved outlining pages that let you map out your stories climactic scenes

I’ve been having so much fun recreating my NaNoWriMo guide. Even better, this guide is not gated (no signing up for my mailing list to receive it!)—however, starting January 1, it will be removed and only available for purchase! I’d love to know your thoughts if you download it… which you can do so HERE:

Thank you again! Happy NaNoWriMo—it’s getting close.

Do I Have to Write Everyday?

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Another month, another series! This month, I want to talk about writing: how to become better at writing, how to effectively set writing goals, and much more. So many people love writing, but when it comes down to it, it can be tough to get started. Writing can seem intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. In this series, I hope you’ll take the opportunity to really jump into writing. Thanks for joining me! You can see all posts in this series by clicking here

Here’s a question I get a lot—from my family, from my friends, from comments on this blog, in writing groups, everywhere:

Do I need to write everyday? I struggle to find time and I often hear that writers write every single day. What does that mean?

Here’s the thing about writing every single day: some people can do this and be fine; some people do this and get burnt out fast; some people do this and don’t think about it; some people have to take time training themselves to write everyday without feeling like it’s a chore.

Where you fall on that massive spectrum is up to you.

But here’s my answer: you don’t have write every single day to be a writer, become a better writer, or even write a novel. But you should work on writing at least every week and focus on building your creativity every single day (even if that isn’t in the form of writing).

Here’s why: creativity is a muscle. The more you work it, the easier it will be to call on it.

When you take care of yourself every day—give your brain plenty of rest, good food, take your medication, whatever you need to be a human—it will be easier to call on your creativity when it’s time to write.

Here’s what that process looks like for me. I try to journal every single day, but I’ll be honest: I fell into a pretty serious depression starting in September and as a result, I let go of journaling. I needed to be focused on healing myself and feeling better. So, when it need, I drop journaling. Otherwise, I try to at least read for 15 minutes everyday, stop using my phone after 6pm (this one is hard), and do something creative (write, embroider, whatever) every single day.

I do write every single day in that I write blog posts, social media for clients, and more. I can’t really stop doing that unless I quit my job(s). However, outside of work, I do try to at least thing a little bit about writing and flex my creativity muscles.

All of this is to say: you don’t have to write every day. But the issue isn’t necessarily writing every day, but being creative every single day. You might work on characters; you might research and read books that you like or that are related to your story; you might draw or paint.

So, I think the answer to the question is ultimately this: it depends on you as a person; you should try to at least be creative in some way everyday; your mental health comes first, always; and if writing everyday works for you, then go for it, hun.

Want more about writing everyday? Here are a few blog posts I liked on the subject:

How to Set Boundaries for NaNoWriMo

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I love NaNoWriMo and I love setting boundaries, but how on Earth do those 2 things go together?

Well, more than you would expect.

If you’ve ever done NaNoWriMo, it can feel all-encompassing, like it’s taking over your life sometimes. That’s not really how it should be. Not be blasé, but at the end of the day, you’re writing 1,600ish words every day. It doesn’t need to take over every waking minute of your day.

It’s ok if it does! If your life is set up in such a way, that’s a totally fine. Wanting to succeed at NaNoWriMo is one thing; feeling like it dominates your life for a month kind of sucks the fun out of it, doesn’t it?

What do we need? Boundaries. How will we get them? By setting them and sticking to them ourselves!

Yeah, that second part isn’t quite as catchy or fun sounding, is it?

Before we jump in to setting boundaries for NaNoWriMo, I want to share a few resources for setting boundaries in general.

What Boundaries Do You Need for NaNoWriMo?

It goes without saying: start by looking at your life, then your process, then what you want to achieve.

Here are the boundaries I set during NaNoWriMo:

  • I have a certain time frame every day to write my words. I make time for it, I communicate that need to everyone around me. If I can’t accomplish my words in that set time frame, I can adjust it, but I also can’t push aside other needs in my life for the sake of words.

  • Limit my screen time outside of work and NaNoWriMo. The rest of the year, I might play Animal Crossing or scroll through IG to rest; this year, since I’ll be increasing my computer screen time, I have to limit my screen time outside of those hours too.

  • My other work exists and matters outside of NaNoWriMo and I reserve the right to abandon NaNo if it doesn’t serve me.

Now, here are a few categories of boundary that I think everyone attempting NaNoWriMo should consider:

  • A time boundary: how much time do you have to dedicate to NaNoWriMo?

  • A mental health boundary: are you in a place where participating in NaNoWriMo will serve you?

  • A relationship boundary: are you able to communicate to those around you regarding NaNoWriMo? Will they understand to not pressure you to skip it or to dedicate too much time to it?

  • A physical boundary: are you able to give yourself space to complete NaNoWriMo while still meeting all your own personal needs?

Setting Yourself Up for Success

Setting boundaries isn’t just a chance to be a fuddy duddy or to annoy your friends or loved ones. (It should be said: setting boundaries can seem like a drag, especially if you’re not used to advocating for yourself, but it’s not annoying behavior.)

When you set effective boundaries for yourself and your goals, you set yourself up for success. You take into account your limitations, the limitations of your space, and the abilities of those around you. You make your needs clear to other people and yourself most importantly.

I don’t want you to think of setting boundaries as annoying, or a waste of time. Think of it as just another step, like having the right tools for a job, of being successful.

Other Resources

Here are some other NaNoWriMo-related posts that you may find helpful!

Inspiration Sunday: Making Magic

Inspiration Sunday: Making Magic | Writing Between Pauses

I read an article this week that I wanted to find to link here—but I can’t remember what website I read it on (it was one of the biggies!), or the headline. I only remember the basic gist of the article. It was: for a certain percentage of the population, we’ve been doing “fine” through the last 7 months. We put in the work, we persevered, we weren’t falling apart, we supported other people, we put our heads down and worked. And now, we’re absolutely breaking down.

I don’t know about you, but I fall into that category. When lockdown first began in Oregon, I remember telling my therapist, at my last in-person session: “I feel like I’ve been waiting for chaos my entire life and now it’s here and it feels fine.”

7 months on, I can tell you: I don’t feel fine.

April and May were tough months, but nothing, nothing, compares to September. It’s normally one of my favorite months, but this year it felt like a black hole. I tried to keep my head above water, but it eventually became impossible. Most days, I just wanted to hibernate, to stay in bed and not get out.

Maybe that’s why I’m so intent on making October better. Today is Saturday, the day before this post will actually go live, and I’ve tried to do things to cheer myself and Forrest up. I let him pick breakfast (pumpkin pancakes), and lunch (Subway sandwiches), we watched the new animated Addams Family movie in bed, we baked cookies, we watched Scooby Doo on TV.

That is to say: I’m trying to find ways to see joy in things again, just like last week. But in many ways, I’m trying to create memories for Forrest that are more than dismal. I try not to imagine what his memories of this time period will be like when he’s older; I comfort myself by saying, it’s probably for the best that his memories will be super fuzzy.

Here are a few little things we’ve done recently to ✨ make magic ✨ at our house.

  • Putting up some new Christmas decorations that I impulse bought a few weeks ago.

  • Getting takeout perhaps more than is appropriate.

  • Making robots to put on the fridge.

  • Making snowflakes to tape on the window.

  • Making elaborate dinners. Or making not elaborate dinners, like pizza pockets.

  • Letting Forrest create recipes (like “banana bake”, which was basically bananas on graham crackers with melted peanut butter)

  • Playing records and having a dance party

  • Trying new things (like cashewmilk ice cream)

There are lots of little ways to make each day special, even if you’re feeling an overwhelming sense of dread. (And trust me, I’m right there with you.) It’s a tough time. We’re all doing our best. I know you are too.

Thanks for reading!

4 Books for Writing Prompts

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Another month, another series! This month, I want to talk about writing: how to become better at writing, how to effectively set writing goals, and much more. So many people love writing, but when it comes down to it, it can be tough to get started. Writing can seem intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. In this series, I hope you’ll take the opportunity to really jump into writing. Thanks for joining me! You can see all posts in this series by clicking here

Happy Saturday! Today is always a great day to rest and indulge yourself in a few of your favorite hobbies. Maybe you already write a lot (like I do) or maybe you just want to get into the habit. Maybe you just want to relieve some of your weekly stress. 

Either way, I wrote this list of books with the intention that these are a great, low stress way to begin writing every day. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of feeling like you have an idea—and if you are drawing a blank, grabbing a book to start your daily journaling or a quick paragraph of writing is one way to get yourself started. Let’s dive in. 

1. 52 Lists for Calm by Moorea Seal

Have I talked about the 52 Lists books enough? Maybe, maybe not. These are my favorite writing prompt books. They’re more personal, obviously, which makes them perfect for daily journaling. Grabbing a book and finding a single prompt to write about has become part of my daily habit. I love 52 Lists for Calm; it’s focus on releasing stress, addressing what makes us stressed and how we feel, and finding ways to support ourselves to calmness. 

2. 52 Lists for Happiness by Moorea Seal

I just bought 52 Lists for Happiness and it goes without saying: I already love it. Right now, I think we all are trying to find joy wherever we can. These prompts have been really helpful to me the last few weeks in trying to find joy in little things and focusing on joy instead of feeling like I have nothing to look forward to. (No shame: one of the prompts inspired me to put up some Christmas decorations because they simply made me happy.) This is another great that is perfect for personal daily journaling, but may help inspire you for creative writing or nonfiction pieces. 

3. Coffee Break Writing by John Gillard

I ordered this book in late July 2019, right after I got laid off. I was unhappy, worried, and trying to find a way to fill the time while I waited to find a job. (In case you’re wondering, it did help a little bit.) I’ve been working my way through it slowly but surely. I typically list books that have prompts I can either write in the book itself or write in my journal with, and these work perfectly. The focus of this book of prompts are ones you can write on quickly during a coffee break. There is a ton of variety and they work for a variety of mediums—whatever you want to write (journals, short stories, poems, blogs), you can adapt them to work for you. 

4. Burn After Writing by Sharon Jones

This book has gone viral on the internet several times. I’ve actually owned 2 copies in my life: the one I have now and one I had I think in college that I really tore up. I can’t remember what I did with my college copy, but I still love this book as much now as I did then. This is another one that is perfect for personal journaling that can inspire you to write creatively. I also love that it’s easy to make this mixed medium: you can paint, draw, tear up, experiment, whatever, while writing about your life, or a make believe life, or whatever is in-between. If you’re looking to really stretch your creative muscles, this is a great option. 

Monthly Journaling: 31 Prompts for October 2020

Monthly Journaling: 31 Prompts for October 2020 | Writing Between Pauses

Happy October! Another month, another exciting set of journaling prompts.

This month, I wanted to focus on finding little joys throughout your month (make sure to check out my Inspiration Sunday post on this subject!), as well as Fall memories, focusing on your mental health (and how that feels in your body), and connecting with yourself through writing.

These prompts are a great way to get yourself writing every day, or just give yourself a few minutes to relax and tune out (and get away from a screen!). I hope you find these helpful!

Journal Prompts for October 2020 adults

How to Become a Better Writer

How to become a Better Writer | Writing Between Pauses

Another month, another series! This month, I want to talk about writing: how to become better at writing, how to effectively set writing goals, and much more. So many people love writing, but when it comes down to it, it can be tough to get started. Writing can seem intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. In this series, I hope you’ll take the opportunity to really jump into writing. Thanks for joining me!

What does it mean to be a good writer?

Here’s the tough thing about all creative endeavors: what makes them good is incredibly subjective. We tend to think of writing, however, as slightly more subjective (although this isn’t necessarily too). Art is a visual medium and is more accessible to most people; everyone can pretty much look at a photo or piece of art and say, “I like that!” and it’s easy to tell why. With writing, good writing is often not that different from bad writing and lots of people can read good writing and say they don’t like it.

It’s just incredibly subjective.

It also doesn’t help that writing, like art, can be a skill your born with a predisposition to. But by and large, most people become good writers by practicing, by focusing on it every single day.

This brings me to the question of this blog post: how do you become a better writer? How do you get started on the path to improving, to making writing an every day part of your life? Here are my 3 tips.

1. Write every single day without expectations.

You’re not writing the great American novel every single day. You’re just writing. Write in a journal, write in your planner, write somewhere: on the notes app of your phone, in a Google Doc, somewhere, anywhere.

You can write with a prompt, like these ones. You can write about the weather or your day. You can write poems or drabbles or flash fiction; you can write out quotes; you can write about what you read that day.

It doesn’t matter. You can henpeck your way through a short story you want to write, or you can just write about your day, or you can write about whatever you want: your favorite memories, your to do list, whatever. There are so many things you can write about every day.

But the what doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you sit down and write every single day.

2. Read.

This is an incredibly easy one, but sometimes, it’s the hardest. If you want to write frequently, if you want to write well, you have to read. If you don’t like to read, then you probably aren’t going to enjoy writing at all.

Reading improves your vocabulary. It gives you ideas of what you like and dislike when it comes to writing. It helps you create your own writing style. It can inspire you, distract you, keep your mind working when you can’t write anymore.

Reading is incredibly important to writing. The best writers are voracious readers. It doesn’t mean you have to have critical thoughts about every book you read. But it does mean that you should be engaging with books—and not just in genres you love, but all books, new and old—frequently enough. Read books, read articles, read poetry, read blog posts, read, read, read.

3. Write about the mundane.

I have noticed this trend among authors that they focus on the biggest parts of their book. It’s very easy to write climaxes, the scenes we’re excited about. But sometimes, focusing on the mundane aspects of our days and lives, and those of our characters, is what is going to build our skills as writers the most.

One thing I do every day is write a list of interesting things I saw that day. It might be things like, “a man with very long, beautiful hair walking to the convenience store” or “grocery pick up at Target punctuated by crows landing on the hood of my car.” Just normal, average every day things that are interesting, that I might use in a scene to provide mundane, but realistic, details.

Write about the mundane. Think about how those small details of your life add up and how beautiful they can be.


That’s it for this week’s blog post! Thanks for reading as always. Next week, we’ll be talking about the best books for writing prompts. See you then!

Inspiration Sunday: Little Joys

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Years and years (and years) ago, I used to frequently write Inspiration Sundays posts. It was a place for me to share things I found meaningful or that were important or pretty to me. I have brought them back every October as a chance to fill up that Blogtober calendar, but I’ve struggled to find a purpose to them.

This year, I had the idea to focus on one small thing each week.

This week, it’s little joys.

As Nabela (if you don’t follow her on Instagram, what are you doing?!) says, there is a pocket of peace inside of each day, even when things are hard. And she’s right!

Let me tell you about my week.

We had Forrest’s birthday (yay!) and then he got sick the day after (boo!). I knew he was going to get sick once he started school. He’s 5, that’s just what kids that age do! But I expected it to be 1) longer than 2 weeks in school and 2) not quite as bad as it is. He had a fever and a very runny nose. On Saturday, I waffled and finally called his pediatrician to have him tested for Covid19. My suspicion is that he doesn’t have Covid19; the reason why it is so hard to spot in kids though is because kids symptoms aren’t the same as adults. Kids, especially small children, get fevers for everything: allergic reactions, average colds, because their body feels like it. They just get fevers! So it’s hard to distinguish a Covid19 fever from a “this is normal for my kid” fever, especially in a kid (like Forrest) who is prone to fevers anyway.

(On that note, I am also prone to fevers. When I had chronic UTIs in college, I think I had a low grade fever every single day for probably 8 or 9 months.)

That’s been the last few days and it’s tough! I’m considering what it will mean if he does test positive and we have to quarantine for 14 days. I’m trying not to panic about it. I’m trying not to feel bad about having him around my parents, who I really don’t want to get sick.

But amongst all this worry, and Fo being sick, there has been so many little joys. Let me list them:

  • Watching Lego Movie in bed with him Saturday night and having him fall asleep beside me almost immediately

  • Making pumpkin muffins together on Friday afternoon

  • Picking up his favorite dinner after school on Wednesday

  • Watching him play with his cousins at his birthday party

  • His excitement when he got Grouch Couch for his birthday after asking for it every single time we went to Target for 2 months

  • Planting my pumpkin patch in Animal Crossing

  • Placing a special Target pick up order for today specifically so we can make chili cheese fries and dip

In my newsletter on Monday, I wrote about finding joy in frivolous things and I wanted to share that here as well: I hope you find joy today and every day. Things are hard. The news is weird. The world feels overwhelming. But I have found that the more I am able to disconnect and find joy in each day, the happier I am—and the more able I am to focus in on the news when I need to and get actual work done.

Thanks for reading! I hope you’ll join me next Sunday as well.