What's On My Daily Routine Checklist?

Welcome to my new series all about routines. While developing my own routine over the last few weeks of stay-at-home orders and quarantine, I’ve found myself writing down notes about developing my routine, working from home, having kids, keeping self-care in my day, and staying sane! I wanted to share some of this information with you, to help you succeed and feel more rested, recharged, and productive. You’ll be able to check out all the posts from this series here.

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A quick note before we begin: I took some time this week to halt my own content in order to give myself space to listen and learn. Like many other white people, and specifically white bloggers, I want to always make sure I’m doing my best to support my BIPOC peers and making space for them to feel heard. In terms of my blog, I am still working on what that means. Pivoting my content in the last year from primarily beauty to career, lifestyle, and more has been challenging—but I know in many ways I need to acknowledge the difficulty not just of mothers in finding and creating their careers, but the difficulty of BIPOC in their careers, specifically in regards to racism, discrimination, and harassment in the workplace. I never want to speak for BIPOC and so, I’m still working on listening and learning and better understanding how I can incorporate this reality into my content in a way that is respectful and honest, without speaking over those who need to be heard.

Thank you again for reading!

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What a week it has been! Since my last post on routines, I feel like the world took another hard (but necessary) pivot. If you felt stressed and overwhelmed this past week, I hope you were able to take time to show yourself kindness while also doing hard work.

It’s difficult to jump back into writing about routines when so many of our lives has been disrupted, again. Whether you are protesting or staying home (to protect those who are immunocompromised in your household), we have all had things to grapple with this week. As time moves on, we will find our routines again. I hope these posts remain helpful and timely even then.

In an ideal world, our daily routines create the backbones of our day, giving us time for both our work and ourselves. Routines are by no mean a hard schedule—as I’ve discussed before. (You can read my entire post about crafting your daily routine here.) I want you to think of your daily routine as a few guiding activities that build your day, allowing you to feel good throughout the day and do the hard work that is necessary for you, your family, and your community.

Today’s blog post is all about creating a daily routine checklist—and specifically, what’s on my checklist.

When it comes to my daily routine, I typically divide my day into 3 parts: morning, afternoon, and evening. That’s pretty basic. I have 2-3 things in each part of my day that are part of my routine and I tend to work my entire schedule around them.

Here’s my full daily routine checklist:

Typically, the first 3 items are my immediate morning routine: I check my email, I journal or do one page of a 52 Lists book, and then I make breakfast with Forrest. After that, I dive into work and/or take Forrest to my mom’s house so I can have a few hours of work time. Then, I hit #4: checking my daily schedule and reviewing my planner for tasks. As I get emails (or spot them in the morning), I usually take notes in a notebook and write out any tasks in my planner. I review this once a day to get an idea of everything I need to accomplish during the day.

Then, I work.

After lunch, I usually have an hour or 2 with Forrest and make time for a few more parts of my routine: watering my plants and taking Remus on a walk (usually with Forrest as well). These are non-work related tasks, but an important part of my day. After that, Forrest has TV time and I usually review my planner and to do list again and tackle any tasks that need done.

In the evening, I always make time to read for 20 minutes or more, usually in the bathtub. Then, I review my Clockify, making sure I’ve logged all my time and assigned it to the correct client. Without this last bit, I think I’d be a total mess.

That’s it! My daily routine checklist is relatively short, but it helps me really get a handle on my day, my goals, and what I need to achieve.

Now, let’s talk about how I put this routine together.

When you think about your routine, I want you to think about it in those same 3 chunks of your day: morning, afternoon, and evening. What things do you find yourself doing during those times? Do they work? Do they not?

Here’s my advice:

• What things do you need to do for work that will make your day easier?

• What can you do to make yourself feel good, mentally, emotionally, or physically, every single day?

• What can you do to start your day on a positive note?

I made a free daily routine checklist builder for you that in it, I help you narrow down your daily routine by having you choose from the following 3 categories:

• Basics (a few simple ways to start your day)

• Work routine

• Things that make you happy

This isn’t meant to be “you can only have these things in your routine!” These are just suggestions if you’re new to having a routine and especially if you’re new to keeping track of your routine day-to-day.

This is how I started putting my routine together: I combined the things that make me feel most energized in the morning (checking my email while drinking my coffee, journaling, and having breakfast) with things that keep me on track for work (checking Clockify and frequently reviewing my planner) and things that make me feel good (spending time with Forrest, taking a walk, and reading).

You can grab your free daily routine checklist builder by signing up for my newsletter!

Thank you again for reading! Let me know how my daily routine checklist builder helps you—or what you’d like to see included in it!

5 Steps for Thanksgiving Prep (+ Free Checklists!)

Preparing for Thanksgiving, whether you are hosting yourself, getting ready to travel to family, or just doing a Friendsgiving, always feels like a huge task. Thanksgiving is a big deal for a lot of people. As much as I love Christmas, I hold a special place in my heart for Thanksgiving—and everything that comes with it. I love Thanksgiving food; I love picking Thanksgiving outfits; and I love getting to spend time with family members I don’t get to see as often as I like.

That being said, Thanksgiving can be super stressful. If you’re traveling, you have a million and 1 things to remember; add in kids and it becomes easily 5 million and 10 things to remember. If you run your own business, if you are working full time, if you’re pregnant… stress on top of stress on top of possible toxic family relationships that can leave us exhausted and needing TLC… instead of refreshed.

This year, I want you to promise me that you will make sure to treat yourself with kindness and love at Thanksgiving. It can be a time of stress for lots of people, along with a disruption in routine. If you’re feeling low, make sure to treat yourself to some self-care and self-soothing activities so you can be rested and recharged.

1. Stock up on supplies in advance

Know you’re going to need like 5 bags of potatoes for your world famous mashed potatoes? Buy them now! Or buy 1 bag per week until you’ve got enough.

Know you’re going to need special activities for your toddler for a flight? Buy them now!

Get what you know you’ll need in advance, before it can 1) sell out or 2) stress you out. The closer we get to Thanksgiving, the more hectic the grocery store will be. I always do my best to avoid grocery stores the week of Thanksgiving; if I urgently need something, I try to replace it with something I do have and I try to have everything I’ll need plenty in advance.

Make a big list of everything you might need and go get it this weekend or during next week.

2. Make a list (and check it twice)

To repeat: make a list. I’ve included at the bottom of this post a PDF of my Thanksgiving checklists I made for myself! I also included some self-care and self-soothing checklists, as well as customizable options if you want to write in your own ideas. Make your lists, keep them close, and find comfort in knowing that, no matter how stressful this season is, you have options to make yourself feel better and reduce that stress.

Here’s a sneak peak of one of these lists:

3. Have self-care in place

For many people, Thanksgiving can bring up reminders of past behaviors that aren’t healthy or happy. Many of us have good Thanksgiving memories, but for me personally, Thanksgiving can be triggering for some of my more negative body-focused behaviors, such as restricting or working out excessively. If this is something you struggle with, make sure you have self-care routines in place to stay healthy. And remember: you can always remove yourself from a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Here are a few suggestions for Thanksgiving self-care:

• Make sure to have your medication if you are traveling & take it according to your prescription.

• Ask a few friends to be on standby if you need someone to talk to. You can also ask your therapist if they have a phone number you can call if you need extra help or if you can email or text them.

• You don’t have to venture into your hometown and respond to every person you remember from your past. It’s ok to walk away.

• Practice breathing exercises in advance to calm your heart rate and help yourself stay calm in situations that might trigger you.

4. Add self-soothing to your routine

Self-soothing is a part of self-care. Sometimes, the media mistakes self-soothing routines as self-care, but the truth is, self-care often is unpleasant and doesn’t feel good. Self-care is going to therapy (which can be emotionally exhausting), whereas self-soothing is a behavior you do afterwards to feel better, like journaling, listening to music, or taking a bath.

As Thanksgiving approaches, if you struggle with the season, make sure to not just have your self-care routine in place (for both home and travel), but self-soothing techniques. Here are a few suggestions:

• If you’re traveling, take along a book you love to read and make sure you have music or podcasts that make you feel good to listen to.

• Have plenty of self-soothing supplies on hand like bubble bath, bath bombs, and scented lotion.

• Give yourself time to self-sooth as part of each day of the holiday. Taking 10-15 minutes every evening to do something to sooth yourself will make a huge difference.

• Download a sound machine app on your phone for soothing sounds to help you sleep or play while you journal, meditate, or practice breathing exercises.

5. Remember that perfection isn’t necessary

No holiday, no day, will ever be perfect. I think we all know that. If you forget a critical part of the meal, no one is going to really care that much. Just say, “oops, I forgot!” It’s not the end of the world. It’s easier to say that than to live it, I totally get it. That’s why I recommend practicing some deep breathing exercises beforehand.

Here’s a breathing exercise I like:

• Breathe in and imagine you are filling a pitcher at your sink. Let it fill all the way to the top.

• Breathe out and imagine you are pouring the pitcher of water down the drain. Pour it all the way out.

That one is my favorite because I like to imagine the sound of the water. You can also find lots of great apps on your smartphone that help with breathing and meditation.

Do you feel ready for Thanksgiving? I’m getting excited, but also nervous. If you’re feeling like me, I hope you grab these free checklists—I know I’m already using mine to get ready!

Beauty Review: The Luxe Vox Box*

*Disclaimer: As always, the asterisk (*) in the post title denotes a sponsored post or a post where I received product for free. All opinions remain my own. For more information about my disclosure policy, please see here. 

I love getting Vox Boxes from Influenster. I get so excited every single time. Needless to say, when I found out I was getting the Luxe Vox Box, I was beyond excited. I really love this style of Vox Box too because I love getting a variety of products instead of just one. Who doesn’t love trying a bunch of goodies instead of just one? 

For the sake of saving time, I’m going to do mini reviews of each product. Here’s everything I received—and what I thought! 

Dr. Brandt No More Baggage Depuffing Eye Gel

This is one of those products that I was excited to try, but isn’t something I would normally buy on my own. Even though I struggle with fatigue (especially at certain points in my cycle), I don’t necessarily get puffy undereyes or even dark circles. (Ok, that sounds like a humblebrag—but trust me when I say I have other skin issues!) The first time I used this, I didn’t notice a huge difference. 

The second time, however, I used it under make up and I felt like it made a huge difference. I usually color correct under my eyes (just to brighten my skin a little bit) and then use foundation as normal. I used this instead of my usual color correcting and I felt like it made my undereyes look smoother and brighter. I really enjoyed using it, but for $42 for a tube, it’s not something I would repurchase. But if you have undereyes that you struggle with, it’s definitely a great product! 

Amika Un.Done Texture Spray

I received two Amika products and I was most excited about this one, the texture spray. My hair tends to be quite flat and dull, especially on the days when I watch it. This is an aerosol spray, not unlike a dry shampoo, that is supposed provide “instead volume and perfect-imperfect texture.” It “utilizes an invisible, salt-free formulation to deliver effortless, tousled beachy hair.” 

Did I like it? No. Like dry shampoo, it gave my hair a texture that I would describe as straw-like and almost waxy. I love the feeling of smooth, soft hair. If a product can keep my naturally very soft, smooth hair feeling that way, but also give it volume, I love it—but that seems like asking for a lot. I used this two days in a row and both days, the volume it provided barely lasted two hours… but the waxy, gross feeling in my hair did last. Hard pass. 

Amika Nourishing Mask

I love a good hair mask—even though “hair mask” is a nice way of saying “deep conditioner.” I don’t use conditioner daily, because again, my hair texture is pretty lank and flat naturally and my hair is pretty healthy at the moment. It’s not something I really need to worry about. However, my hair does have a lot of breakage because I wear it in tight ponytails and buns a lot, so I was hoping this mask would help with that. 

I have been using this in the shower twice a week and I really love using it. I almost feel like it gives my hair a little bit more body than usual and definitely makes it feel very soft and look very shiny. This mask promises to "restore hair to its natural vibrancy and health from the inside out," which is quite a hefty promise; but it also says it "hydrates for long-lasting softness, shine, elasticity, and manageability." That last one is definitely true. At $28 for 250mL, it's not a terrible price for something you use at most 1-2 times a week! (The mini size which I've linked is only $10--great for sampling!) 

GrandeLips Hydrating Lip Plumper

This is the item I was dreading reviewing. Firstly, a lip plumper is not something I would ever, ever purchase or want to use. But I couldn't very well just not use it and fluff a review. I felt between a rock and a hard place. So I put aside my reservations and I put it on one morning early last week. 

Cue my rapidly scrubbing my lips and nearly screaming. Within seconds to applying, my lips were burning. Not just feeling warm or fuzzy. But burning. I had light chemical burn all around my mouth for several days. Don't buy this product. Don't use this product. I wish I had trusted my gut!

AQUIS Hair Towel

Ok, that last mini review was a bummer, right? Chemical burns are no good. But I love this hair towel. It is made from "Aquitex," a hair drying technology that is "ultra light." It is supposed to rapidly dry hair to "damp stage" without heat. I personally do not use heat on my hair, so this was something I was very excited about. With the change in seasons, my scalp has been very dry and itchy, so I've been having to wash everyday to avoid flakes and nourish my scalp with soothing ingredients. (If you're wondering, I've been using YesTo Coconut Tea Tree Shampoo.) 

I love the shape and thinness of this towel; it makes tying up my hair after my shower to do my make up very easy. It does seem to dry my hair very quickly, which is also very nice. However, at $30-45 for a single towel, it's quite expensive. I have some not-as-fancy hair towels from Target that were $5 a piece at the most that do almost the exact same thing. But if you have a lot of hair and want to cut how much heat you use on your hair, it would definitely be a good splurge.